Judgment

I was scrolling through one of my favorite social media platforms and saw a post quoting the Bible. It said, “Do not judge or you too will be judged. Matthew 7:1”

The first thing to hit me was when you judge another it’s because you hold the exact same judgmental feelings about yourself. Most people don’t know this. Judgment is something Spirit doesn’t feel. It’s not a spiritual concept, it’s a feature of being human.

We carry parts of ourselves who are unacceptable, disavowed, and buried deep within us. Parts who act out in ways that are socially unacceptable. We’re socialized from day one and learn what’s acceptable and what’s not.

When my son was very young, I took him to a local park and lake for a swim. When we got there, I grabbed his swimsuit and a towel out of our bag, and before I could take him to the changing rooms he got naked right there on the grassy area by the lake and put on his suit. I didn’t think much of it because he was around four and wasn’t self-conscious yet. After he ran down to the water’s edge an elderly woman nearby squawked, “Has he no shame?” I looked right at her and said, “No. I haven’t taught him to be ashamed of his body.” I let it go at that, but the woman probably had all sorts of judgmental thoughts about me.

One of the cool side effects of healing inner trauma, emotional triggers, annoyances, and other crud has been simultaneously releasing negative judgments about myself.

And as I no longer feel judgment toward myself, neither do I toward others. What’s left is compassion and understanding.

Lakeside

5 thoughts on “Judgment

  1. Interesting topic and I agree, children are so UNashamed of so much, that’s part of their magic. Here’s my story that happened today, how I’m so LESS judge-y than I used to be. I dropped off a prescription at a different drugstore and had a discount coupon. The employee was really quite bitchy to me and I had been super polite. In the OLD DAYS, I would have matched her negative energy but I don’t really do that now. I stayed polite and calm and thanked her. When she called to give me price, it was incorrect and I had to go back with the info I had so I could get the discount that she had told me she didn’t need the first time I was there. When they got it right, I was told it would be half an hour longer and I didn’t go all Karen on her, I just said, OK. The actual pharmacist saw me quietly waiting and hurried to fill the order even though I told him I had no problem waiting. We had a lovely chat about the world and he said “external locus of control” so I KNEW he was one of us haha. The old me would have judged the clerk but now I know we all suffer from something and her bad mood had nothing to do with me. No judging! (sorry for the long comment!)

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  2. I remember reading a book long ago that talked about how something that bothers us in someone else is the same thing that’s in us and we don’t see it. They mirror us. Sort of similar or the same as judging. Since then, when I catch myself judging another, I go inward to find where my broken part is. Sometimes I find it, sometimes I don’t, but at least I try to be aware

    It’s great that you feel so comfortable with yourself, and how, in turn it has ceased judgment of others. Your story reminded me of when my born-again-Christian neighbor asked if my cleaning lady, who was also a friend of mine, was available to do her house. When my neighbor learned she was an unwed mother of four, she called her a whore and kicked her out of her house. I was mortified and hurt for my friend. I wondered how someone who called themselves a Christian, who knew Jesus spent most of his time with rebels, thieves, and prostitutes, could be so horrible to a human being with such judgment.

    With your healing work, your Christ spirit is coming through.

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    • Thanks so much. Yes, healing all sorts of inner darkness and shadow makes shining Christ’s light easier and easier. How sad about your neighbor. I’ve known a few people who were raised with religious abuse they’re pretty oblivious to, who grow up to become extremely judgmental. One gal was terrified if her son wasn’t a “good Christian” he’d go to hell and all sorts of horrible things would befall him in life. She blurted this out one day when he wouldn’t “obey” her. He was only being a toddler doing what toddlers do.

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